Category: the Rant Board
Ok, I was hurt and down about this to start with but I'm getting over it well now it's turned into anger . My so called friend knows I'm going through alot and told me you know the regular I'm here for you blah, blah. So everything's fine then the idiot just cuts me off no reason why doesn't tell me if I've done something nothing. Wont talk to me answer email or calls and the worst part is I like them. Well I'd love revenge right now!
Anyone have any advice? Am I wrong to feel the way I do? Because if you have a problem with me tell me don't just ignore me.
If someone is going to turn a cold shoulder, they should tell you why. I've had a couple people do that to me, and it does hurt because you keep trying to figure out what you did wrong.
I'm with Beckey on this one. I dunnow what to say for advice, but well... That's really mean of that person who turned the cold shoulder. I hate people who do that.
It really sucks when people disconnect from you like that. However, who's to say it's your fault at all. There could be other problems in that person's life which made them go do that. No matter who's to blame and what the reason is, it stil sucks. My question is, though, do you really think revenge will do that person any good. I've given up on being vengeful myself, because no matter how I might try to hurt somebody because I'm hurting, they will never know what it's like and it probably won't make me feel any better. I'd just have to feel hurt and then be done with it and get on with living my life and write off people who hurt me as fools.
revenge isn't the answer, and if you do something to hurt the person, you'll just feel bad for it later on. like someone said, try not to take it personal, and understand that there may be other reasons why the person's disconnected him/herself from you.
Revenge is usually pointless. Sometimes the person you are trying to hurt is so oblivious and self-centered that nothing you do hurts them. All you do is hurt yourself more by hanging on to those angry feelings.
Catlover, you have a good point there. All I can add to that is life's too short.
Flower maybe this individual is trying, in their own misguided way, to protect you from a painful event..it does sound from their behaviour that there is something serious going on. If I was you I'd respect their wishes and step back, if in time they decide to contact you, it's your decision to reply or to sever all ties.
Hi Fallen Flower I have a friend like that! This person has hurt me in the past! I want to break the ties with this person! She was rude to one of my new friends! For no reason at all! This person doesn't want me to have other friends! My Mom want let me break the ties! Just caus this person was my first best friend! I know my thing is different from you! But I'd never want revenge on this person! I just don't call or email her as much as I should! I just want to break the ties though! Your friend, Hope
I had friends like that to, and then when they finally do start to talk to you they give you this excuse that they've been busy and that you didn't do nothing, and yeah you know the drill
Troy
Well post 1 didn't tell us everything did it? So how can any of you form a position on the matter? Obviously there is more to this than has been stated. If you're so right and that person is so wrong, you'll have no problem interacting more with other friends or making new ones.
well I know how this feels, I had a friend that won't talk to me and I think it is because I got him help when he was about to kill himself, but as someone said a while ago in an e-mail I would rather have an angry friend then a dead one.
I've been let down by a friend before. I had a friend I met on the zone, and we've been good friends for 6 months. I got skype a few weeks ago, and I added this friend of mine to my contacts list. Since I don't have a microphone, I use this software that lets me type in what I want to say. When I called my so called friend on skype, I told him that I was using that talking software. He told me that since I don't have a microphone, he didn't want to talk to me. Then, he hung up on me!
A few weeks later, I downloaded some new voices to use with that software. These voices sounded better, so I thought the friend who hung up on me would like them So, I called my friend several times last weekend, but after the first ring, he'd hang up. This happened for 3 or 4 times. When I messaged him, he gave the lame excuse, it happens sometimes. I was quite sure he was ignoring my calls on purpose! Yesterday, I called him on skype, and all he said when he answered was "not without a mike," then hung up on me. I was upset! I can't believe a good friend of mine would sink down so low and do that to me! I think ignoring or hanging up on someone for the stupidest reasons is wrong and immature. I use that talking text to speech software on skype, so if you can't accept the way I talk, then don't add me!
My advice is, forgive and forget. Just move on, and that's exactly what I'm going to do!
Just get a microphone.
katie maybe the smell was getting to this person over all the chat devices like skype and such and they couldn't deal with it anymore lmao
Jenele, excuse me! Anyone who uses chat software should know that only data such as sound,text, and images can be sent to whomever you're chatting with. I hate to bea miss know it all, but someone's sent is not data, so it couldn't be transmitted via such programs. Joanne, That's exactly what my so called friend said before he dropped me like a hot potato, get a microphone.
Janelle, a bit harsh with the sarcasm there, but Katie, it's not hard to find a microphone to use. they do have desktop mics available to purchase. It just sits there while you're hands are free to type.
And, wouldn't using a text to speech program be kind of misleading? Unless your contacts are aware that you don't have a microphone, they'd think you had some medical condition that prevents you from speaking, which, obviously, is not true.
lmao i'm sorry i had to
Well, I always make my contacts aware that I use text to speech. About 9 out of 10 are ok with it. The contact I was talking about acted like text to speech wouldn't be so bad, but when I called him a week after I told him, it was totally different.
any thoughts on the part about using text to speech, when you could easily go and get a microphone? I mean, you don't have a medical condition that requires use of a text to speech program, so why not go and get a decent mic?
Don't feel that you're alone in this, I'm going through a very similar situation.
The worst part of all this, is, I can't rid myself of the feelings I still have, for him.